When Mother’s Day is Hard

Mother’s day is not necessarily a joyful holiday for all of us. It may actually be a trigger for painful memories or a reminder of loss, absence, of a relationship that is missing from our lives. Here are some ways to honor ourselves through validation and self care during a difficult time:

  • Nurture yourself: treat yourself with positive affirmations of dignity and self worth. Do for yourself: take a walk or go on an excursion. Take an exercise class. Enjoy a favorite meal. Take yourself to ball game. Ask yourself: what can I give to my inner child to create a moment of joy or fulfillment?
  • Honor the meaningful relationships in your life: reach out or spend time with someone in your life who has provided love, friendship, security to you. It may be a relative, a past teacher or mentor, a friend, even a colleague from work. Often when we focus on what we don’t have, we overlook what we do have. Take a moment to consider who has been a support to you, and acknowledge the power of that relationship.
  • Know that you are not alone: should you continue to struggle with difficult memories, or a sense of loss, understand that this is a pain that you do not need to go through on your own. Reach out to the resources in your life. You may also consider touching base with a therapist to help you honor yourself and find healing.

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About the Author

Suzanne Devoti, LCSW is a therapist at Olive Branch Therapy Group. Suzanne works with children, adolescents, young adults, adults, and couples. Suzanne’s specialties include depression, anxiety, grief, couples, parenting, families, and women’s issues. If you are interested in working with Suzanne, contact us via email, phone or chat on our website.